Going the Distance: 7 Survival Tips to Make Long Distance Last ...
Picture the scene: you?re on a plane, prowling the runway, your eyes are drawn up and away from the latest braindead glossy in hand to the cabin crew doing their well-rehearsed thing. In horror you realise you?re mouthing the words and could get up there and save Ryanair?s Michael O?Leary a few quid by pointing out the exits yourself.
These aren?t the ravings of a one-time cabin crew reject who can?t let go or a devotee of that TV classic Airport; instead, you suffer a much worse fate ? ?a long-distance relationship and these Economy Class occasions are par for course.
Personally, I wouldn?t wish a long distance dalliance on my worst enemy.?Staying together despite parting ways is a big decision and even the least clingy lady in Ireland can crack when there?s air miles, delays and bad reception between you both ? not to mention shocking phone bills and crossed eyes from being online ?til 2am talking each night. Going the distance isn?t for everyone so from the outset you need to ask yourself if long distance suits your lifestyle and what you need from a relationship right now? (If you have acute aerophobia the answer might just be a ?no?).?If you have a meltdown at the prospect of your fella going on holiday alone, never mind moving a few thousand miles away, cut your losses now ? long distance will maketh a bunny boiler out of you, lady.
So if you?ve decided it?s worth it, you?ll be elated to know that long-distance relationships don?t have to be heart-stabbing punishment; how you plan and make the most of the situation ahead of you will make the whole thing less of a bumpy ride.
7 Survival Tips to Make Long Distance Last
1. The Honest Policy ? so this is true of all relationships but even more so when you?re both being tugged in different directions. Emails and texts can be garbled, you?ll get aggravated that you?re the only girl in town who hugs a computer screen at night and tensions can be frayed when you don?t get to see each other as often as you like. Communicate, tell the truth, tell him how you?re feeling and explain those mood swings so he knows it?s ?cos you actually miss him and you?re not just a moody whingebag.
2. Curb the green-eyed monster ? If trust isn?t exactly your middle name at home, you might want to think again before taking your place on the Long Distance Challenge. Also, because you?re not in each other?s faces everyday, you?ll start hearing about workmates, housemates, new friends, people you?ve never met. The green-eyed, insecure monster will be tempted to imagine all sorts of wild fantasies about parties and potential trysts but remember to stay cool. Nothing pushes a man away quicker than realising he?s got the monster from Fatal Attraction waiting at home for him.?
3. Get gorgeous ? So dressing up for a train/plane journey might be the last thing you feel like doing but always looking your best is one way of ensuring the fizzle doesn?t go out of your relationship. Before your visit, buy a new dress or get your hair done and chuck the tracksuit bottoms! Make the effort and don?t get lazy so you leave a lasting impression on him each time you wave goodbye.
4. You know what they say about variety?Inject newness into the relationship each time you meet up by trying new things and going new places together. Book flights early, look for last minute deals for surprise visits or step outside your comfort zone. Try a city break to a more idyllic destination one weekend, escape the rat race to somewhere like the Cotswolds next time then rough it on a camping break.
5. Keep your own ID ? you occupy that strange place between single girl and being off the market so make the most of your freedom. Although your boyf might feel better hearing that you do nothing but mope for him day in, day out, by telling him the interesting things you get up to each time you chat you?ll remind him of the smart lady he fell in love with. Stand by your man without losing yourself in the process so don?t let your own life slide.
6. Leave your inhibitions at the door ? unlike regular couples who can hit the sack when they feel the urge, long distance lovers gotta make the most of every second together. Phone sex. Lots of phone sex.
7.? Agree on an end ? it sounds morbid but you?ll thank me for this one. Things will be less painful if you both know when it?ll end. Be it six months or a year?s time, putting a date on things that you can both work towards gives you something to look forward to. Having a plan is also a good way of knowing where things are going or if you should get out now. Long distance can?t go on forever ? just look at the amount of celeb marriages that end because they?re too often apart ? so pin him down to a plan, make the most of your flying visits and count down to the day he finally visits you on a one-way ticket and you can rest assured this time he?s not going anywhere!
Read:?A cheapskate?s guide to long distance love
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